Orgasm gap: Why women often miss out
Be honest: Do you really orgasm every time you have sex with your partner? If not, you're not alone. According to studies , only about 65% of women regularly experience orgasms during sex with a partner. When masturbating, in contrast, the number is around 95% .
Why is that?
One of the main reasons: The clitoris is often not stimulated sufficiently or at all during traditional vaginal intercourse. Studies show that only 20–30% of women reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.
This means that the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm – and that is completely normal.
🔥 What really helps:
1. Combined stimulation
Many women experience more intense orgasms when they experience multiple stimuli simultaneously. For example, vaginal penetration + clitoral stimulation – whether with a hand, a toy, or friction.
2. Incorporate toys during sex
A clitoral sucker or a small vibrator can also be used during partnered sex—discreetly but effectively. This allows for more simultaneity and closeness.
3. Research yourself – and then communicate
If you know how your own body works, you can communicate it better. Show your partner what you like – it's not an ego thing, but a step toward more genuine pleasure for both of you.
4. Don't fake an orgasm
Many women do it – but in the long run, it doesn't help anyone. It perpetuates false expectations and leads to less honesty in bed. It's better to be open about what's missing – or experiment together.
💡 Conclusion
Sex can also be fulfilling, regularly pleasurable and orgasmic for women – and that is not a question of “ability”, but of communication, knowledge and the willingness not to ignore the clitoris.